You’re acting defensive…No, I’m not! Managing defensiveness

You’re acting defensive…No, I’m not! Managing defensiveness

Bringing up difficult topics often makes others defensive, especially when we’re asking them to acknowledge negative behavior or change in some way. Worse, their responses often trigger us to feel defensive. This can start a downward spiral that leaves us…

Is compromise the best way to solve a conflict?

Is compromise the best way to solve a conflict?

It seems reasonable. It’s quick and easy. “Let’s make a deal,” you think, “we’ll do a little give and take. We’ll COMPROMISE!” And, in fact, it can be a wonderful way to get things resolved quickly when there’s a time crunch…

Heart shape tree in lavender meadow for love symbol

How important is kindness to your relationship?

When we are struggling in a relationship, kindness may be the last thing on our mind. Anger, frustration, even sadness may block our ability to access good feelings about our partner. Yet, without feelings of loving kindness toward our partner,…

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Have the courage to speak up and improve your relationship!

Recently, I was reading an article by Kasey Ferris in the HuffPost where she was talking about the lessons she’d learned from her divorce. This quote really struck me, “Throughout years of my marriage I hesitated to speak my truth. While…

Lend Me Your Ear: Listening to improve relationships

Lend Me Your Ear: Listening to improve relationships

In our fast-paced, multi-tasking world we might act like we’re listening, but are we really hearing what the other person is saying? Here are three quick tips to improve your listening and deepen your relationships with others. Set Intention Usual: Often…